From the Brink of Divorce to Happy Marriage

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Joanna (name changed) is a thin, reasonably attractive 41-year-old female who was brought to International Psychology Centre by her group of close friends, stating that she was facing marital issues, household violence, as well as being generally unhappy.

Joanna was introduced to her husband shortly after she moved to KL, and they were married after a brief but intense courtship of 3 months. This intensity waned almost immediately after the marriage ceremony, and they settled into a routine marked neither by contentment nor by obvious problems. Interactions were minimal and there was seldom conflict. Over the years they have three children aged 11, 8 and 6.

As years passed, Joanna’s husband, who is now a project manager for a multinational manufacturing company, spends a lot of time travelling. When he is home, he is no longer willing to listen to Joanna. However, the problem is not as apparent then, since Joanna tries to rationalize by saying that her husband is merely stressed out, and she should give him the space he needs. However, the condition of their marriage deteriorates when her husband starts getting abusive in his speech and even actions where he would slam the door and come out with a list of things she should be doing. More recently, Joanna had experienced the episodes of anxiety and depression more consistently when her husband was around. Coupled with the responsibilities to manage the household and take care of her three children, Joanna was emotionally, intellectually, and physically drained to the point where she could do little more than meet her own basic needs.

Seeing her struggles, Joanna’s friends decided to help her out. They heard of Relate, The Centre for Couple Therapy, International Psychology Centre. In addition to individual psychotherapy, there are also couple and sex therapy, as well as family therapy. Over the course of a few weeks, Joanna came in for more sessions where she was taught how to communicate more effectively with her husband. For example, instead of avoiding her husband, Joanna was taught to mirror and empathize with her husband. She was also taught to address her negative emotions through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Emotion-Focused Therapy. During these sessions, Joanna was coached to better identify and flexibly manage her emotions. She also learnt how to attend to her children’s needs more effectively and facilitate them to cope in difficult situations. Joanna’s husband was invited to join her for Couple Therapy as well whereby the psychologist and couple therapist was able to help them to better understand and talk to each other.

Biochemical laboratory tests, such as the Neurotransmitter test was also recommended to investigate any biochemical cause of Joanna’s constant mood of anxiety and depression. It is evident that a lack of serotonin, which is one of the brain neurotransmitter or brain chemical, was one of the causal factors for depression. Based on these results, a programme of psycho-nutritional supplements can then be recommended along with psychotherapy sessions that will help Joanna boost her neurotransmitter without any side effect and improve her relationship with her husband.

In a matter of weeks, Joanna had made considerable gains in these important areas: First, Joanna and her husband were able to communicate more effectively with one another. Second, Joanna and her husband were able to better support each other emotionally. Most importantly, both of them are now able to live life vitally and adaptively, and enjoy better relationships with themselves and the people around them.

This article is contributed by the team of Psychologists at Relate, The Centre for Couple Therapy, International Psychology Centre.

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Does Your Child have Language Delay?

Being expressive can be very touching, most of us use verbal communication to express our feelings, thought to others. Language development can start from early childhood, even starting from the first year.

It is important for you to be concerned about the language development of your children. Knowing what’s “normal” and what’s not in language development can help you figure out if your child is right on schedule. Here’s some developmental norms may provide clues:

Before 12 months

Toddlers within one year old babbles rhythmically, copy some of the sounds and gestures of caregiver make; they play with making different sounds – for example, ‘aaieee’, ‘booo’, ‘ahh’ at varying pitches and volumes.

From 1 to 2 years

Children at this age begin to imitate and approximate sounds and words modeled by family members, and typically say two words sentences spontaneously. Most toddlers are saying about 20 words by 18 months and 50 or more words by the time they turn 2. By age 2, kids are starting to combine nouns and verbs simple sentences, such as “baby crying” or “Daddy smile”.

From 3 to 4 years

Kids at this age can make sentences length four to five words, they have about 1000 words vocabulary. They can tell what they did on that day, they know last name, name of street, even recall several nursery rhymes.

From 4 to 5 years

They have 1500 words vocabulary, they ask many question like “why” and “who”. As they grow their vocabularies are gaining, they are beginning to master basic sentences structure. They also can identify colors, shapes, and comprehend descriptive concepts (big versus little, for example).

Each child’s language development grows with different pace. At the age of two, about one in five children shows signs of having a language delay. Some of these children will catch up as they get older and some do not.

Your child might have language delay if you see some of the following signs in your children:

By 3 years old:

  • Seldom have eye contact
  • Not trying to communicate with you, particularly when they need help
  • Unable to say about 50 different words
  • has difficulty understanding simple verbal requests

Between 3 to 5 years old:

  • Does not understand prepositions or action words
  • Does not use at least 200 words
  • Does not ask for things by name

Language delay involves impaired comprehension or use of a spoken, written, or other symbol systems.  The disorder may involve: the form of language (phonology, morphology, and syntax), the content of language (semantics) or the function of language in communication (pragmatics). There can be a number of causes of language disorder. The most consistently reported risk factors include a family history of speech and language delay, male sex, premature birth, and low birth weight. It most often co-occur with Autism Spectrum Disorder which is linked with heavy metal toxicity, leaky gut or gut dysbiosis and a signature of genetic mutations.

Assessment

A psychologist will be able to conduct the psychological test such as Phonological Test, Dyslexia Test, Pragmatic Language Test and Cognitive or IQ test to diagnose the specific language and other disorder.

Psychologists also trained in PsychoNutritional medicine and therapy such as Dr. Edward Chan, the principal consultant child psychologist at ChildPsych, Centre for Child Psychology of the International Psychology Centre who was accredited by the Amen clinics led by the world renowned psychiatrist Dr. Daniel Amen, can also conduct mental health lab tests including heavy metal toxicity hair analysis, leaky gut urine test, gut dysbiosis stool test and saliva gene tests after the confirmed language disorder diagnoses.

Intervention

Please seek evaluation if you suspect your child has language delay. According to the American Speech Language Hearing Association (ASHA), 200 studies have found that 70 percent preschool children show improvement after treatment. The treatment include:

  • Individual speech therapy: A psychologist trained in speech therapy such as those at the Child Psychology Centre at the International Psychology Centre will interact with a child by playing and talking, using pictures, books, objects, or ongoing events to stimulate language development. This can help the child to build his vocabulary and improve his grammar.
  • Psychotherapy: If your child has emotional difficulties as a result of language issues, you might want to consider psychotherapy.
  • PsychoNutritional Therapy: If your child has heavy metal toxicity, leaky gut or gut dysbiosis their language delay symptoms will drastically improve once these causes have been treated especially if they get treated before the age of 7 according McCandless, psychiatrist and author of Children with starving Brains; a medical treatment guide to Autistic Spectrum Disorder.

Parents are an extremely important part of their child’s therapy program. There are ways you can help your child’s oral language skills at home:

  • Communicate with your child as much as you can: During infancy, sing and play lots of music. Spend a lot of time to communicate with your child, talk about what you see when you’re driving in the car or at the supermarket.
  • Read to your child. Make reading an interactive experience with discussing the book’s pictures, and let your child make up a new ending or act out the story with puppets. Later, let your child point to recognizable pictures and try to name them. Then move on to nursery rhymes, which have rhythmic appeal.
  • Ensure that you do not have heavy metals toxicity before you conceive by doing a heavy metal toxicity hair test because toxic heavy metal can be passed directly to your fetus.

Whatever your child’s age, recognizing and treating problems early on is the best approach to help with speech and language delays. With proper therapy and time, your child will likely be better able to communicate with you and the rest of the world.

 

This article is contributed by Psychologists and PsychoNutritional Therapists at ChildPsych, Centre for Child Psychology of the International Psychology Centre.

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Insomnia Psychotherapy

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Young Woman with Insomnia

Carly had a good career, a good family, and a good home. She was doing well in life. But due to a restructuring at her company, Carly was moved to a different department at her work place. Carly was constantly stressed under her new boss due to unreasonable amount of work and because of this she began to have difficulty sleeping.jvem6evwxxhhwa37n41g Carly would constantly go to bed worrying and thinking about her work, she couldn’t catch a night’s worth of sleep. She would just lie in bed the whole night with her laptop on and paperwork piled all around her. Carly was beginning to worry her family. Her husband, Harold, would often try to talk sense into her to get her to rest but she refuses saying she needs to get all of the work done. Harold even tried to get their children to coax their mother to sleep, she complies but wakes up after the children leaves and goes back to work. Harold would get so frustrated with her constant movements and the light being turned on that he would sleep in the guestroom instead, thus causing a strain in their marriage.

What Carly and her family are experiencing is not unusual, many people suffer from insomnia. Insomnia has become an increasingly prevalent disorder in our modern, fast-paced, and stressful world. It is especially frequent with people who are easily stressed and who do not have good coping abilities. Carly felt the weight of her actions toward her family, she realized that her family was getting distant and she decided to seek for professional help. Carly called International Psychology Centre® and made an appointment to have an initial assessment with the team of trained psychologists. The assessment diagnosed Carly with acute insomnia. According to the DSM-V, the Diagnostic and Statistics Manual for Mental Disorders, acute insomnia is a condition lasting from a few days to a few weeks, often associated with life events or a change in sleep schedule. These symptoms may produce significant distress, and interfere with personal, occupational, and social functioning.

 

helpA combination of therapeutic techniques and materials were prescribed for Carly.  She was prescribed psycho-nutritional supplements such as Tryptophan to increase her melatonin level. Melatonin is the hormone that regulates the sleeping cycle and sleeping pattern in humans and in animals. With that, Carly would be able to have longer hours of good sleep. She was also prescribed Anti Insomnia PsychoAromatherapy, which is a specific blend of essentials oils that are soothing and calming to help a person sleep faster, longer, and better. Social & Emotional Intelligence Therapy was also included and it is an innovative therapeutic framework that takes place through the direct and creative dialogue through various natural direct activities and thereby developed other multiple intelligence including interpersonal intelligence, and intrapersonal intelligence such as stress management, problem solving and reality testing skills. Carly also went through Insomnia Psychotherapy, a psychological and specific form of psychotherapy to explore the many different sub-personalities in a human. This therapy helps the client to embrace and function coherently with the different personalities in them, especially the worrying as well as confident parts of themselves.

After several sessions of individual Insomnia Psychotherapy, a better communication between Carly, Harold (Carly’s husband), Tanya, and Anne (Carly’s two daughters) was established and Carly’s family were happy to be able to talk and communicate with Carly again. Carly was able to talk to her husband about her problems at work, and their relationship was getting better again. Carly feels better now that she has better quality and quantity of sleep.

“Insomnia can be a dangerous problem. Not only does it affect a person’s physical healthy but also affecting a person in every aspect, be it social, emotional, mental, spiritual, and so forth. By finding out what is the cause of insomnia such as a stressor, and subsequently teaching a person to handle the problem effectively and efficiently, insomnia will cease to exist,” says Dr. WengLok Chan, the Principal Consultant Psychologist of PsyCare™, Centre of Excellence for Personal and Corporate Growth at the International Psychology Center® (Psychology.com).

This article is contributed by PsyCare™, Centre of Excellence for Personal and Corporate Growth of International Psychology Centre®’s team of psychologist and psycho-nutritional therapists. Contact them at the International Psychology Center Sdn Bhd, 11-1 Wisma Laxton, Jalan Desa, Taman Desa Kuala Lumpur. Call 03-27277434, e-mail info@psychology.com.my or log on to www.psychology.com.my

Infidelity

A terrible thing has happened. You found out your partner cheated on you. What happens now?

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For some people, cheating means an automatic break-up. But others may still have feelings for their partner, and depending on the circumstances they may want to try and keep the relationship going. A lot of people who contact us ask: how do I build trust again after my partner cheats?

As hard as this might be to hear, it’s important to remember that there is no way to 100% guarantee that your partner will never cheat again. Your partner has to make the choice not to cheat, and you can’t control other people’s decisions.

However, you can choose whether or not to trust your partner again. Rebuilding trust is possible. It does take a lot of work, and BOTH partners have to be committed to healing the relationship.

Here are some tips to keep in mind:

Communication should be open. Healthy communication is important in any relationship, but especially after trust has been broken. You should be able to talk honestly with your partner, and you should feel that your partner is being open and honest with you. If you have an argument, try to fight fair without bringing up the past.

Be on the same team. Your relationship may not look the same on the “other side,” but it is possible to build something new. You should both be focused on building that new relationship together.

Stay “present-oriented.” One of the most difficult things about rebuilding trust after someone cheats is staying in the present moment and building toward the future, rather than living in or worrying about the past. You have every right to feel hurt, angry, and sad about your partner’s decision to cheat. However, if you can’t eventually let go of those feelings and work toward a more positive, open approach to the relationship, it may be a sign that this relationship is not worth staying in.

Trust yourself. This might be the most important (and hardest) thing to do. You might be questioning your own instincts at this point: “Should I have done something differently?” “Shouldn’t I have seen this coming?” But learning to trust yourself, your own feelings, and that you’ll be okay moving forward is key to having a healthy relationship with anyone. If something doesn’t feel right, rethink about whether or not it’s right for you.

As you are rebuilding your relationship, remember the following:

  • Cheating is never an excuse to be abusive toward your partner. There is no excuse for abuse.
  • Cheating does not mean your partner has no right to privacy anymore. It’s not healthy to demand that they share their cell phone or social media passwords with you, or constantly check up on them and make them prove that they are telling you the truth. What you share with each other is still a decision for each of you to make. Again, it will be your choice to trust or not trust your partner.

If You’re the One Who Cheated

If you cheated on your partner, and you both have decided to try and make your relationship work again, there are a few things you need to do:

Take responsibility. Own up to your behaviors, and be understanding about how those behaviors have made your partner feel. Be honest with yourself as to why you made the decision to cheat.

Keep promises. Call when you say you’ll call. Do what you say you’re going to do. Show that you are worthy of trust.

Give your partner space. They will be angry and hurt about what you did, and they have a right to feel and express their feelings. Sometimes it might seem like you’re taking one step forward and two steps back, but you must recognize that this process takes time. Trust cannot be given back overnight. However, like we said above, your partner does not have the right to be abusive toward you, and you still have a right to your own privacy.

Communicate openly. Find out what your partner needs. Really listen to them. Be honest with your partner about what you need. Are you willing and able to meet your partner’s needs, and vice versa? If not, it might be time to reconsider whether staying in the relationship is right for both of you.

Are you dealing with cheating in a relationship and need someone to talk to? Call, text, or chat online with one of our peer advocates today. We can help!

“What is the BEST CAREER for YOUR PERSONALITY”

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Hi Everyone,

The International Psychology Centre is organizing a talk on


“What is the BEST CAREER for YOUR PERSONALITY”


Personality refers to individual differences in characteristic patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. Research shows the match between your career and personality plays a major role in your job satisfaction and success. We will help you make that match.


Feel free to join us school leavers, parents, family and friends, please do drop by to gain more information on how to find the suitable career.

“FREE CAREER PERSONALITY SCREENING” + “DE-BRIEF”

Date: 19th DEC 2015

Time: 5.10pm – 5.40pm

Venue: KLCC Convention Centre

So, don’t miss the chance out. Let’s join us to boost up your passion towards your future career!

Hope to see you there!

For more details, please contact 03-27277434

Email: Info@psychology.com.my

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Help your Child cope Exam Stress & Anxiety?

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Fikri (name changed), a 14-year-old boy, academically was an excellent student with a distinction grade for all his examinations in primary school. From a young age, he was trained to think that exams are supremely important. However, his academic performance has been dropping gradually since he joined the junior high school. He even scored the lowest grade among his classmates in last year final exam.

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Symptoms of Exam Stress & Anxiety

When the school counsellor spoke to him in regards to his low grades, he claimed “When the test arrives, my hands start to tremble when I write my name down on the answer sheet. The first two questions will go fine, but when I read the third question everything goes blank and even the easiest question seem to be difficult to understand”. Indeed those symptoms have caused him a lot of pain over a year. No matter how hard he tried to be calm and stable, he just could not overcome his exam anxiety.

At home, Fikri is quiet and did not communicate with his parents. He would not take the initiative to start a conversation and become irritated whenever his mother speaks about his exam performance. Ms Suraya (name changed), Fikri’s mother has also noticed that he is not sleeping well and has been struggling to get out from bed in the morning. Several times, Fikri has informed his parents that he does not want to attend an exam due to excessive fear and anxiety.

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Seeking Help 

Ms. Suraya is not alone in our society. There are many parents having the same problem as them and finding it hard to understand and manage their child’s anxiety issues faced during exam period. They are also concerned about their child’s development in the future years. Ms. Suraya and Mr. Husni (parents) were very worried about him and decided to seek for professional consultation with EdPsych™, Centre for Educational Psychology of the International Psychology Centre® (www.Psychology.com.my).

Psychological assessment and intervention to identify the Level of Exam Stress & Anxiety

The educational psychologist interviewed them on the child’s background and developmental history. They wanted to know how Fikri was growing up so that they could have a better understanding of his situation. Then, they had another session with Fikri to assess him for his anxiety and stress.
The educational psychologist at International Psychology Centre® used a number of stress and anxiety psychometric test such as the Test Anxiety Questionnaire™ to measure the experiences before and after examination and Beck Anxiety Inventory™ which looked at Fikri’s current anxiety symptoms. After the assessment, the educational psychologist revealed that Fikri had severe stress and anxiety before and during the examination period.

Students are often faced with a series of exams or tests at the end of a term or semester, which are usually scheduled closely together. This can lead to great stress and create anxiety for students. These exams are becoming quite competitive. In such a situation, when exam stress becomes too much, children tend to crumble. There are cases when children have attempted and even succeeded at suicide because their exam related stress went unnoticed.

Remedy for Exam Stress & Anxiety:

Psychoeducational therapies based on the results of Fikri’s psychological assessment were developed to help Fikri to overcome his stress and anxiety before and during the examination period. Furthermore, a team of psychonutritional therapists at the Psychonutritional Divisions at the International Psychology Center work along with the Educational Psychologist to conduct diagnostic laboratory tests to assess the biochemical contribution to his high level of anxiety and stress. Indeed, the result of laboratory report indicated that Fikri had deficient neurotransmitter and low serotonin activity. The Psychonutritional therapy was developed and tailored to Fikri’s lab results and this included boosting up deficient neurotransmitters with natural nutritional supplements such as 5HTP and SAMe to boost up serotonin which is important to help the child to stay calm and relaxed.

Reversal of Exam Stress & Anxiety:

Based on these results, Fikri’s therapy consisted of the psychoeducational programme as well as the psychonutritional therapy based on both the professional psychological and psychonutritional lab test conducted within 6 to 12 sessions of this therapeutic programme has really helped Fikri.

Indeed, Fikri’s mother has been able to notice the difference in Fikri. He is now able to manage and cope with his exam stress and anxiety. Fikri’s self-esteem begins to increase and he had acquired the confidence to do well in his examination without any exam anxiety. His improved self-confidence helped him to make more friends and he is now enjoying school very much. Fikri’s parents felt grateful that they took the fateful step of taking a chance and seeking professional help for their son.

This article is contributed by EdPsych™, Centre for Educational Psychology of International Psychology Centre®’s team of psychologist and psychonutritional therapists. Contact them at the International Psychology Center Sdn Bhd, 11-1 Wisma Laxton, Jalan Desa, Taman Desa Kuala Lumpur. Call 03-27277434, e-mail or log on to www.malaysiapsychology.com or http://malaysiapsychology.wordpress.com or www.malaysianpsychology.wordpress.com

International Certification Course – Child Psychotherapy

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Greetings from the International Psychology Centre!

We would like to invite you to join our International Certification Course – Child Psychotherapy by ChildPsych™, Centre for Child Psychology which held at International Psychology Centre®, 11-1 Wisma Laxton , Jln Desa, Tmn Desa, 58100 KL on 21st NOV 2015.

Psychotherapy refers to a variety of techniques and methods used to help children and adolescents who are experiencing difficulties with their emotions or behavior. Although there are different types of psychotherapy, each relies on communications as the basic tool for bringing about change in a person’s feelings and behaviors.

During the class, we will guide you to understand and help those children with Anxiety, Autism, Dyslexia, Depression, Conduct Disorder and so on.

This course is accredited by Malaysian Association of Psychotherapy (MAP).

For more information on Malaysian Association of Psychotherapy (MAP), please kindly visit the following link: http://malaysianpsychotherapy.net/

International Certification Course – Details:

Date:21st NOV 2015

Time: 10am-1pm

For details, please call 03-27277434 or email to info@psychology.com.my or  visit www.psychology.com.my

Regards,

Reenusha

Supervised Psychologist

International Psychology Centre®

Psychology is about understanding and changing people, whether you are an individual, couples, children or corporate organisation. We help you to change to be more successful. We help you to understand your unconstructive or unproductive patterns of behaviour, thinking and emotions and replace them with more productive and successful patterns of behaviour.